Therapist’s Blog
Radical Acceptance: Part 1
When faced with a painful situation, we can do one of four things:
We can attempt to solve the problem, or change the situation.
Uh-oh - that didn’t work? Well, our second option is to stay miserable. Maybe we even become bitter or resentful because we can’t stop thinking about how unfair this situation is! Maybe if I think about how crappy it is, it will magically change…
(Side note: Sometimes we need to sit in this place for a little while. It’s okay. But it usually isn’t very helpful to stay here too long!)
The third option is to change your perception of the situation. Maybe instead of focusing on how rude it was for that driver to cut you off, instead be grateful that you did not get in an accident and that you have quick reflexes!
Lastly, we can choose to radically accept the situation. Let’s talk more about this option.
New to Therapy? What to Expect in Your First Session
You’ve known for a while that you need some help; you’ve meticulously combed through therapists on Psychology Today; you’re ready to make a change in your life . . . But what the heck does a therapy session even look like?
How do I “ground” myself?
Do you ever catch yourself tensing up and fixating on thoughts of everything that could go wrong, or maybe just everything you have to do? Do you struggle to stay in the present moment? Do you ever feel overwhelmed by feelings of anxiety?
It may be helpful to try out some “grounding” skills.