When faced with a painful situation, we can do one of four things:

We can attempt to solve the problem, or change the situation.

Uh-oh - that didn’t work? Well, our second option is to stay miserable. Maybe we even become bitter or resentful because we can’t stop thinking about how unfair this situation is! Maybe if I think about how crappy it is, it will magically change…

(Side note: Sometimes we need to sit in this place for a little while. It’s okay. But it usually isn’t very helpful to stay here too long!)

The third option is to change your perception of the situation. Maybe instead of focusing on how rude it was for that driver to cut you off, instead be grateful that you did not get in an accident and that you have quick reflexes!

Lastly, we can choose to radically accept the situation. Let’s talk more about this option.